Sermon Prepared by James McCullen
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Ingredients of Proper Sexual Behavior
1 Thess 4:1-8 NAS

1 Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that, as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you may excel still more. 2 For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. 8 Consequently, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you. NAS

Introduction
We live in a age of much sexual sin. I suppose there has always been a lot of sexual sin. It seems today there is more than at any time in my life time.

Yesterday I received an Email from a pastor I have never meet. He has been to my sermons page and liked what he saw so he presented his concerns to me. The problem he faced had to deal with a family in the church where the step father is molesting the 8 year old step daughter. This man has readily admitted this to the pastor. The wife of the girl has done nothing to stop this sexual sin.     In additional Emails I have been told that the Mother had been sexually abuse as a child. The pastor has two sisters that were abused as children.

The cover of this weeks Word and Way has the testimony of a person who has left the life style of Homo Sexuality. They were helped by an organization called Exodus. We could go on and on about Improper Sexual Sin. It is every where in this society,

I want to emphasize the Ingredients of Proper Sexual Behavior. They include:

The Ingredient of the. . Commands of God. v 1-2

The Ingredient of the . . Commitment of Man. v 3-6

The Ingredient of the . . Call of God. v 7-8
 
 

1.    Ingredients of Proper Sexual Behavior Includes the . . Commands of God. v 1-2


1 Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that, as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you may excel still more. 2 For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.

A.    Asking . . for the Commanded Behavior v 1 - 2 a
1 Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that, as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you may excel still more. 2 For you know what commandments we gave you . . . "

        1.    The Commanded Behavior and Our . . Walk.
                a.    A . . Pleasing Walk. v 1 b

        2.    The Commanded Behavior and our . . Will
                a.    A . . Preferred Walk. v 1 c

B.    Authority . . for the Commanded Behavior. v 2 b
        ". . . what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.
        1.    A Channeled Authority.

Illustration
I heard of a funeral for a person who dies from Aids.   Attending were 38 men who stood around the grave side.   The minister came back and they asked him to read scripture. He read request for an hour. They wanted to hear the Word. I say that is great but I wonder if there behavior was in line with the commands of God before the death of this friend.
 

Application

We need to follow the commands of God for proper sexual behavior.

Ex 20:14
14"You shall not commit adultery. NAS

Matt 5:27-28
27 "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery'; 28 but I say to you, that everyone who looks on a woman to lust for her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. NAS

Hebrews 13:4 NAS
4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
 
 

2.    Ingredients of Proper Sexual Behavior Includes the . . Commitment of Man. v 3-6


3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you.

A.    Commitment of Man to the . . Will of God. v 3 - 4
v  3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor

        1.    Commitment Expressed . . Positively. v 3 - 4
                a.    In . . Chastity. v 3
                b.    In . . Control.. v 4

The word sanctification.

Strong's # NT:4632 skeuos (skyoo'-os); of uncertain affinity; a vessel, implement, equipment or apparatus (literally or figuratively [specifically, a wife as contributing to the usefulness of the husband]): KJV-goods, sail, stuff, vessel.

SANCTIFICATION (Defined in Vines Word Studies)

A. Noun.
hagiasmos NT:38, "sanctification," is used of (a) separation to God, "Sanctification is that relationship with God into which men enter by faith in Christ,

"Sanctification is also used in NT of the separation of the believer from evil things and ways. This sanctification is God's will for the believer, 1 Thess 4:3, and His purpose in calling him by the gospel, v. 7; it must be learned from God, v. 4, as He teaches it by His Word,

"The Holy Spirit is the Agent in sanctification, Rom 15:16; 2 Thess 2:13; 1 Peter 1:2; cf. 1 Cor 6:11....(from Vine's Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words, Copyright (c)

        2.    Commitment Expressed . . Negatively. v 5-6 a

v  5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God;    6 and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter

            a.    Commitment Related to . . Turning. v 5
                    1)    Our Life Is Different than the Pagan.
                    2)    Our Life Compared to the Normal Pagan.

Pagan religion did not demand sexual purity of its devotees, the gods and goddesses being grossly immoral. Priestesses were in the temples for the service of the men who came. (from Robertson's Word Pictures in the New Testament, Electronic Database.

            b.    Commitment Related to . . Transgressions. v 6 a
                    " and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter"

                    1)    Our Life Compared to the Normal Christian.
                    2)    Normal to Respect the Marriage vows.
                    3)    Normal to respect a Christian Brother and Sister.

B.    Commitment to the . . Warning and Word of God. v 6 b
            ". . . because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you.

Illustration
Tony Compolo at a retreat and the night time devotions. Man asked them to pray that his sexual drive be taken away. Victory is in the Commands of God and the Commitment of man to those commands.

Application

Rom 6:19 I am speaking in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness, resulting in further lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves to righteousness, resulting in sanctification. NAS

Romans 12:1
1 I urge you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. NAS
 
 

3.    Ingredients of Proper Sexual Behavior Includes the . . Call of God. v 7-8


v  7 For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. 8 Consequently, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you.
 

A.    The . . Conviction Linked to God's Call. v 7
v  7 For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification.
 

B.    The . . Consequences Linked to God's Call. v 8
v  8 Consequently, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you.

John 12:48 "He who rejects Me, and does not receive My sayings, has one who judges him; the word I spoke is what will judge him at the last day. NAS
 

Illustration Biblical Studies Foundation Joe Theismann
Quarterback ESPN commentator Joe Theismann, allegedly explaining to his soon-to-be-ex second wife why he had an affair: "God wants Joe Theismann to be happy."   Sanctity of Life, C. Swindoll, Word, 1990, pp. 62ff
 
 

Conclusion     Calling to Obedience

In the eleventh century, King Henry III of Bavaria grew tired of court life and the pressures of being a monarch. He made application to Prior Richard at a local monastery, asking to be accepted as a contemplative and spend the rest of his life in the monastery.

"Your Majesty," said Prior Richard, "do you understand that the pledge here is one of obedience? That will be hard because you have been a king."

"I understand," said Henry. "The rest of my life I will be obedient to you, as Christ leads you."

"Then I will tell you what to do," said Prior Richard. "Go back to your throne and serve faithfully in the place where God has put you."

When King Henry died, a statement was written: "The King learned to rule by being obedient."

When we tire of our roles and responsibilities, it helps to remember God has planted us in a certain place and told us to be a good accountant or teacher or mother or father. Christ expects us to be faithful where he puts us, and when he returns, we'll rule together with him.