Sermon Prepared by James McCullen
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ALL IN THE FAMILY - 2
Col 3:21- 4:1

NKJV 
21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. 22 Bondservants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh, not with eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but in sincerity of heart, fearing God. 23 And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, 24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. 
25 But he who does wrong will be repaid for what he has done, and there is no partiality. 
4:1 Masters, give your bondservants what is just and fair, knowing that you also have a Master in heaven. NKJV
NASB 
21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart. 22 Slaves, in all things obey those who are your masters on earth, not with external service, as those who merely please men, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, 
24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve. 
25 For he who does wrong will receive the consequences of the wrong which he has done, and that without partiality. 
4:1 Masters, grant to your slaves justice and fairness, knowing that you too have a Master in heaven. NASU
NIV 
21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. 22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. 25 Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for his wrong, and there is no favoritism. 
4:1 Masters, provide your slaves with what is right and fair, because you know that you also have a Master in heaven. NIV

Introduction
 
 
 
 

1.    ALL IN THE FAMILY . . The Word to Fathers. v 21



    Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

A.    The . . Command. v 21 a
        Fathers, do not provoke your children,.

provoked - Nasb = exasperated - Niv = embitter

ATR = Here it means to nag and as a habit (present tense).

Do not place your anger before your children.

B.    The . . Clarification. v 21 b
        ". . . lest they become discouraged."

        1.    A child just gives up because they think they can't please.
        2.    All they hear is what they did not do.

John MacArthur gives a lengthy treatment on ways that parents can exasperate their children. Let me recount these in brief: Parents can exasperate their children

1. by overprotection                      2. by showing favoritism
3. by depreciating their worth         4. by setting unrealistic goals
5. by failing to show affection         6. by not providing for their needs
7. by a lack of standards                 8. by criticism
9. by neglect                                 10. by excessive discipline

[MacArthur New Testament Commentary, 171-173].

Illustration
My friend Burnell Lewis told this story as he heard it from Bob Warner. It happened to a St. Louis family. It seems the father never was pleased with his son's actions.

One day when he came home and opened the garage door he saw his son hanging from a rafter with a note that said "Did I Do This To Suit You" What a terrible way to find out you have not helped your child have a sense of self worth.

Application

That Father had provoked -exasperated - embitter his son.

Someone said, "Rearing kids is like holding a wet bar of soap ­ too firm a grasp and it shoots from your hand, too loose a grasp and it slides away. A gentle but firm grasp keeps it in your
control." (Hewett, 191)

Fathers seek God's gentle by firm hand over yours.
 
 
 

2.    ALL IN THE FAMILY . . The Word to Employees. v 22-25



    22 Bondservants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh, not with
eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but in sincerity of heart, fearing God. 23 And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, 24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. 25 But he who does wrong will be repaid for what he has done, and there is no partiality.

A. The . . Command. v 22 a
    "Bondservants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh,. . . "

B.    The . . Clarification. v 22 b - 23
    "not with eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but in sincerity of heart, fearing God. 23 And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,

C. The . . Compensation. v 24- 25
    24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. 25 But he who does wrong will be repaid for what he has done, and there is no partiality.

Illustration
One of my favorite illustrations is an experience of Dr. Harold Hendricks a Professor at Dallas Theological Seminary. It seems a plan was delayed and one passenger really berated a stewardess. She took the attack and remained calm. Dr Hendricks went to this young lady and said "you are and outstanding representative of American Airlines and I am going to write a letter commending you." The lady said "I do not represent American Airlines." Dr Hendricks look at her name badge and insignia; the lady said "oh I work for American but I represent Jesus Christ."
 

Application

Mt 25:23 His lord said to him, 'Well done, good and faithful servant; you have been faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.' NKJV

Are you looking forward to the Lord's Well Done?
 
 
 

3.    The Word to . . Employers. v 4:1



    Masters, give your bondservants what is just and fair, knowing that you also have a Master in heaven.

A.    The . . Command. v 1 a
        Masters, give your bondservants what is just and fair,. . . "

B.    The . . Clarification. v 1 b
        ". . . knowing that you also have a Master in heaven."

Illustration
Last Sunday night the sports news cast had an interview with Whitey Herzog. Christa and I really enjoyed hearing some of the stories. Whitey talked about Willie McGee and how earnest, sincere and dedicated he was. He said when he first came up he could have three hits in a row and on the forth at bat strike out and would come back to the dugout with tears streaming down his cheeks.

Whitey said one of the best line came form Bob Forch as he said "I would sure hate to see Willie at a funeral. He also made reference to how Willie could let a good pitch go by and then hit a pitch out of the strike zone. Whitey said it was an amazement to me why they ever threw him a pith in the strike zone.

But then Whitey said Willie could not keep the signs straight. If he was given a sign he might miss it or confuse it. Whitey respected Willie's ability so he told him I am not going to give you any more signs. I want you to steal a base every time you think you can but you must do it on your own. Many of you know Willie stole about 50 bases a year for several years.
 

Application

Whitey was in a sense an employer. He recognized the strengths of his employees and treated them accordingly.

I wish I could tell you Whitey Herzog was a Christian but I have never heard of him making a commitment to Christ. However he can serve as an illustration to employers.

Masters, give your bondservants what is just and fair, knowing that you also have a Master in heaven.