He . . . called me through His Grace, . . . to reveal His Son
in me, that I might preach Him . . . "  Gal 1:15b-16a

Command #5 Honor Father and Mother

Ex 20:12

12 "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you. NKJV


Our Lord demonstrated this command. Lu 2:51 And he (Jesus) went down with them, and came to Nazareth, and was subject unto them: but his mother kept all these sayings in her heart.

Our nation needs this command demonstrated over and over today. Our nation suffers great damaged from a lack of respect of parents, officials and authorities of all kinds; but it starts at home. You probably saw this comparison of school problems in the 1940s and 80s.


1940                                                                            1985    

1. talking                                                                    1. rape 

2. chewing gum                                                          2. robbery       

3. making noises                                                         3. assaults       

4. running in halls                                                      4. burglary      

5. getting out of line                                                   5. arson           

6. improper clothing                                                   6. murder        

7. missing waste basket  

Parents requested and received honor and respect 50 years ago, but there has been a steady decline ever since. This nation needs parents who’s lifestyle commands respect, and children who willingly give it.

The . . Principal, Promise, and Privilege Of Command #5.


1.       The . . Principal Of The Command. 20:12a

"Honor your father and your mother,. . .”


What does the word honor mean? 

OT:3513 To be heavy, to be weighty, to be grievous, to be hard, to be rich, to be honorable, to be glorious, to be burdensome, to be honored. (The Online Bible)


A.        The Point:     Is This For Today? YES!

            1.         It has A divine origin.  

                                    1) God Commanded It.

            2.         It Has A divine order.

                                    1) A father and mother must be honored.

                                    2) A father and mother must be honorable.

                                    Eph 6:1-4 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise: 3 "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth." 4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. NKJV


            3.         A divine opportunity.

                        1) Christian families are an example to outsiders.

                                    a) Show how God's principles can work.


B.        The Principal:           How Do I Honor.


            1.         Show Honor Through Love.


                        a. Expressing thanks for them.       b. By Praying for and with them

                        c. Speak to them                                d. Attitude                 e. Attentiveness


                                    L        Listen To Them.

                                                Pr 6:20-23 20 My son, keep your father's command, And do not forsake the law of your mother. 21 Bind them continually upon your heart; Tie them around your neck. 22 When you roam, they will lead you; When you sleep, they will keep you; And when you awake, they will speak with you. 23 For the commandment is a lamp, And the law a light; Reproofs of instruction are the way of life, NKJV


                                    O        Obey Them                 Col 3:20

20 Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. NKJV


                                    V       Visit with Them.        Jas 1:27

27 Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world. NKJV


                                    E Encourage. 1 Th 3:2

2 and sent Timothy, our brother and minister of God, and our fellow laborer in the gospel of Christ, to establish you and encourage you concerning your faith, NKJV

Proverbs 1:8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:

Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool [is] right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel [is] wise.


A.        Four reasons to honor parents:


            1.         It pleases the Lord. Col 3:20

                        “Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.


            2.         It is the right thing to do. Eph 6:1 Eph 6:1

                 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”

            3.         It enables you to live long in the land. Exod 20:12b

                        “. . . that your days may be long upon the land . . .” which the Lord your God is

                        giving you. NKJV


            4.         It will be well with you. Deut 5:16

                        'Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you,

                        that your days may be long, and that it may be well with you in the land which

                        the Lord your God is giving you. NKJV


Peter T. Forsythe was right when he said, “The first duty of every soul is to find not its freedom but its Master”. The Integrity Crisis by Warren W. Wiersbe, Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1991, p. 22


Dr J A Campbell was president of Bule’s Creek Academy in North Carolina, which later became Campbell College. He tells about taking his two sons to Wake Forest College. They had never been away from home a night in their lives. He went to their room in the dormitory and helped them to get settled. He said it was hard for him to leave his boys, but before he told them good-by, he gave them his check book and said, “When you need anything, just make out a check for it. As long as you live as I have taught you, and as long as you stand for the things that I stand for, I will honor your checks at the bank.” He said the money was often scare, but when the checks came to the bank, somehow he was always able to take care of them. Today his two sons are themselves college presidents. Simple Sermons On The Commandments Ford, Pgs65-66


So we say that children can honor their parents by being obedient to them. A disobedient child is a drain upon society, a burden upon the state, a stumbling block for the church, and a cause of heartbreak to his parents.


2.       The . . Promise Of The Command. 20:12b

            “. . . that your days may be long upon the land . . .”


A.        The . . Personal Part Of The Promise.

                                    “. . . that your days . . .”


B.        The . . Personal Privilege

            “. . . may be long upon the land . . .”

Illustration http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/6976583.stm

They say rock and pop stars live life in the fast lane and now researchers have proved it.

A Liverpool John Moores University study of 1,050 US and European artists found they are twice as likely to die early than the rest of the population. In all, 100 stars died between 1956 and 2005 with US stars dying at 42 on average and those from Europe at 35. Drug and alcohol problems accounted for one in four deaths, the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health said.


The average age at death of Rock Stars is 36.

            The average age at death of All Americans is 75. http://www.av1611.org/rockdead.html


A friend often told me about the problems he had getting his son to clean his room. The son would always agree to tidy up, but then wouldn’t follow through. After high school the young man joined the Marine Corps. When he came home for leave after basic training, his father asked him what he had learned in the service. Dad,” he said. “I learned what ‘now’ means.” Contributed by Jan King, Humor in Uniform, Readers Digest, May, 1996, p. 174.


The . . Promise Of The Command. 20:12b

            “. . . that your days may be long upon the land . . .”


3.       The . . Privilege Of The Command. Exo. 20:12c

            “. . . which the Lord your God is giving you.” NKJV


A.        The . . Provided Privilege

                        “. . . which the Lord your God is giving. . .”

            1.         Provided to the Obedient.


B.        The . . Personal Privilege

                         “. . . is giving you.”

             1.         Personal to the Obedient Child.



When Dr Robert G Lee, the great preacher of Memphis, was a young man, he went to Panama to work and to make enough money to finish college. Before he left, his mother put her hands upon his shoulders, looked into his eyes and said, “Bob, you will be gone from home a long time. But when you come back I am going to look into your eyes and I can tell whether or not you have dishonored your mother and your God.” The young man went to Panama and faced many temptations, but he kept himself clean. When he came home to South Carolina and met his mother, he put his hands upon her shoulders and said, “Mother, look into my eyes. I have lived clean and straight. I never took a drink, I never gambled, I never touched a woman.” His mother looked and was satisfied. Simple Sermons On The Commandments Ford, Page 71


Oh, may God help us so to live that when we meet our mothers and fathers in another world, we shall be able to say, “I lived every day for your Savior and mine. Him.

Let Us Lived By The . . Principal, Promise, and Privilege Of God’s Commands