Living at Home 1 Peter 3:1-12 (HCSB) October 07-2012
To some “submission” is a nasty word. If that is true the word has been misinterpreted or misapplied.
The foundation of a home has a foundation submissive to all the structure above it If you don’t have a good foundation you do not have a good home. In our home my wife was submissive like a foundation of a building. Likewise if we did not apply good principals of honor and understanding the home would have been weak.
1. Living at Home . . Blessed With Submissive Wives. 3:1-6
A. Submissive Qualities of A Wife . . Observable to All. v 1-2
1 In the same way, wives,
submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, even if some disobey
⌊Christian⌋ message, they may be won
over without a message by the way their wives live
2 when they observe your pure, reverent lives.
B. Submissive Qualities Of a Wife Not Just Consisting of . . Outward Qualities. v 3-4
3 Your beauty should not
consist of outward things ⌊like⌋ elaborate hairstyles and
the wearing of gold
ornaments or fine clothes.
4 Instead, ⌊it should consist of⌋ what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes.
C. Submissive Qualities Imitating and . . Obeying Like Sarah. v 5-6
5 For in the past, the
holy women who put their hope in God also beautified themselves in this
submitting to their own husbands,
6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. You have become her children when you do what is good and are not frightened by anything alarming.
I remember the first time I thought my wife was not being submissive. I decided to take her out for a long drive, eat out and just show and tell her I loved her. Her attitude of submission completely changed. It is my opinion women do not mind submitting to a man who demonstrates his love. The most beautiful women are not the women of Hollywood, and all their attire, it is the woman who displays the respectful qualities of a feminine
lady in a modest manner. An example of submission is given by Sarah but if you read all about her she was not run over by Abraham. He treated her with honor and respect.
2. Living at Home . . Blessed With Husbands who Honor and Understand. 3:7
A. Blessed Through Husbands who Understand A Woman’s . . Nature. v 7a
7 Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives with an understanding of their weaker nature . . .”
B. Blessed Through Husbands who Understand A Woman’s . . Needs. v 7b
“. . . yet showing them
honor as co-heirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not
I believe the husband is the key to a happy home. He sets the tone of love. His wife and children need to see his love demonstrated in many different ways. When a man lives with his wife in an understanding way
she feels loved and appreciated, and wants to stand by her husband helping create the loving atmosphere for the entire home. If a husband does this his prayer life will be consistent and will accomplish much. It is sad but many men leave the spiritual side of life up to the women. God created man first and he is supposed to lead.
But our text says a man’s prayer life could be hindered because he is not obedient to these matters of respect honor and understanding. Men we need to take the lead in these matters.
3. Living at Home . . Blessed With the Love of all Family Members. 3: 8-12
A. Blessed Through the Love of all Family Members . . Demonstrated in Godly Actions. v 8-9
8 Now finally, all of you
should be like-minded and sympathetic, should love believers, and be
compassionate and humble,
9 not paying back evil for evil or insult for insult but, on the contrary, giving a blessing, since you were called for this, so that you can inherit a blessing.
B. Blessed Through the Love of all Family Members Without . . Deceit. v 10
10 For the one who wants to
love life and to see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his
C. Blessed Through the Love of all Family Members . . Desiring Peace. v 11-12
11 and he must turn away
from evil and do what is good. He must seek peace and pursue it,
12 because the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and His ears are open to their request. But the face of the Lord is against those who do what is evil.
I like to see a loving home. I think my wife and I had one with our children and have one right now with just she and I. My oldest daughter, her husband, and five children have a fine example of a loving home.
My youngest daughter, husband, and her three children also are examples of a loving home. The demonstration of godly actions permeate these homes as love and kindness are expressed. Can you see sibling rivalry and other normal activities? Of course, but you would see very little deceit. The desire for peace in the home, neighborhood, and church are very prevalent. This means there is a turning away from evil and really trying to do good. This is all included in the special feeling of Living at Home. Amen? Amen!