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Cultivate Godly Friendships    1 Sam. 18:1-4; 19:4-7; 20:8, 12-13; 23:16-18
Oct. 19-08


    Let me ask a question; How many good friends do you have? The Teacher’s Guide after telling  about a friend who helped in a traumatic situation said, “most adults have no more than one or two such tried-and-true friends. I think God has given my wife and I several friends. In church I believe you receive many opportunities to Cultivate Godly Friendships. But to have friends, you must be a friend.


1.   Cultivate Godly Friendships Through . . Commitments.    18:1-4

       A.   Commitments Inspired By The Lord’s . . Direction. 18:1-2

              1 When David had finished speaking with Saul, Jonathan committed himself to David, and loved him as much as he loved himself. 2 Saul kept David with him from that day on and did not let him return to his father's house.


       B.   Commitments Inspired By Love’s . . Devotion. 18:3-4

        3 Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as much as himself. 4 Then Jonathan removed the robe he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his military tunic, his sword, his bow, and his belt.

       The Lord, on many occasions, causes a person to sense a closeness to another person. Maybe your personalities click, or your likes and dislikes match, therefore you have a desire to fellowship with this person.  I believe Jonathan felt this kind of direction toward David as the Lord led to a devotion between he and David. When I was a young minister I wanted to be around the older ministers. I learned much by just listening. Today I like to be around younger ministers, and encourage them as well as to rejoice at what God is doing in their lives. To be a friend you may have to go out of your way to cultivate the other person.


2.   Cultivate Godly Friendships Through . . Communication Of Truth.   19:4-7

       A.   Communication Including . . Correct Information. 19:4-5 

4 Jonathan spoke well of David to his father Saul. He said to him: "The king should not sin against his

servant David. He hasn't sinned against you; in fact, his actions have been a great advantage to you.
5 He took his life in his hands when he struck down the Philistine, and the Lord brought about a great
victory for all Israel. You saw it and rejoiced, so why would you sin against innocent blood by killing
David for no reason?"


       B.   Communication Including . . Cheerful Information. 19:6-7 

              6 Saul listened to Jonathan's advice and swore an oath: "As surely as the Lord lives, David will not be killed." 7 So Jonathan summoned David and told him all these words. Then Jonathan brought David to Saul, and he served him as he did before.

       Did you ever know someone who always wanted to know the latest information? Sometimes these people fail to check out their information and have to stand corrected. Jonathan gave correct information. He spoke boldly to his father and correctly reminded him about David’s service and loyalty. Saul accepted the truth Jonathan shared and swore an oath of appreciation for David. Jonathan then cheerfully shared the news with David. This experience added to the depth of friendship they shared.


3.   Cultivate Godly Friendships Through . . Coordination Of Truth.     20:8, 12-13

    A.   Coordination Of Truth Trusting . . Sincerity. 20:8

        8 Deal faithfully with your servant, for you have brought me into a covenant before the Lord with
you.  If I have done anything wrong, then kill me yourself; why take me to your father?"


       B.   Coordination Of Truth Using Thoughtful . . Strategies. 20:12-13 

            12 "By the Lord, the God of Israel, if I sound out my father by this time tomorrow or the next day and I find out that he is favorable toward you, and if I do not send for you and tell you, 13 then may God punish Jonathan and do so severely. If my father intends to bring evil on you, then I will tell you, and I will send you away, and you will go in peace. May the Lord be with you, just as He was with my father.

       At times truth needs to be coordinated. David laid his life out before Jonathan and then said, “if I have done anything wrong, then you kill me yourself.” This made a rather drastic way of expressing his sincerity but he made his point. Jonathan devised some strategies to inform David if Saul planned to harm him. He also expressed his sincerity in an unusual manner as he requested God to punish him if he did not prove faithful in his coordinating the truth with David.


4.    Cultivate Godly Friendships Through . . Covenant.      23:16-18

       A.   Covenant Based On . . Dedicated Friendship. 23:16-17   

            16 Then Saul's son Jonathan came to David in Horesh and encouraged him in his faith in God,

17 saying, "Don't be afraid, for my father Saul will never lay a hand on you. You yourself will be
king over Israel, and I'll be your second-in-command. Even my father Saul knows it is true."


       B.   Covenant Based On . . Disciplined Friendship. 23:18

18 Then the two of them made a covenant in the Lord's presence. Afterwards, David
remained in Horesh, while Jonathan went home.

       Jonathan and David enjoyed their covenant with one another. Jonathan proved his friendship with several acts of dedication. He even promised to help David after he became King. These men disciplined their lives so they could serve the Lord in personal and corporate worship. As a minister who surrendered to the ministry at 20 years of age; I still enjoy friendships made over fifty years ago. With several of these men I have enjoyed revival meetings, study events and evangelistic encounters. These times of ministry have helped me to Cultivate Godly Friendships. It is a pleasure! Amen? Amen!