Role Models for Husbands and Wives.
1 Pet 3:1-7 NKJV
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1 Peter 3:1-7 1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward — arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel — 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. NKJV
Introduction
I have heard a woman pastor, and some men say "Paul held what we would consider sexist views of women." Paul was a man of his time and that he never meant his statements about women to become the basis for the teaching of the entire church.
They use the scripture verse in Gal 3:28 to persuade us to their view. It says “ There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus”
That verse is talking about salvation not roles for male and female. Further we must ask "did Paul know what he was writing about? "
Our text is in the book of 1 Peter. It was written after the book of Galatians. The case against the idea of submission as part of the role model for ladies in my opinion is not valid. It is especially not valid through the use of the verses in Galatians.
Galatians Written 48-57
1 Peter Written 63-65
Lets look further at the text and the :
The Attitude . . of the Wives Role Model.
The Adornment. . of the Wives Role Model.
The Attitude . . of the Husbands Role Model.
1. The . . Attitude of Wives In The Biblical Role Model. v 1-2
1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.
A. The . . Required Attitude. v 1
1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands,
1. Require for God to be pleased.
a. The word “likewise” is used here in verse 1 and later in
verse 7
b. God has ordered the role models.
c. Jesus set the example.
1 Cor 11:3 But I want you to know that the head of every man
is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is
God.
2. Require for Woman to be pleased.
Gen 3:16 "I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you." NKJV
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the
Lord. NKJV
Illustration
In July 1998 Entertainer Barbara Streisand married boyfriend James Brolin at the actress' three-home seaside Malibu compound, as helicopters were overhead and many reporters clustered on a country road near by.
In an interview with Barbara Walters Ms Streisand said "I can't believe he means so much to me. The other night in the Swimming Pool I look up at him and said to my self I am looking at the world from his shoulders."
Now I don't agree with much of what I know about Barbara Strissand but I do think she has every right to be happy. She is saying I have a man I can look up to, and now I am happy, happier than I have ever been. Maybe she has a Biblical view without even knowing it.
Illustration
Some of you will remember this story. We move back to Missouri from West Virginia. My salary package was $12,000 less than the one in Missouri. We have a house to pay for in West Virginia.
Christa at times would say we can't do it. As the head of the house I said "Christa this is my responsibility, and God will take care of it. Let's focus on the truth of God's call to be here." God took care and Christa got peace.
B. The Reason for the Attitude. v 1 b
". . . they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,"
1. There is an evangelistic reason.
Illustration
Dwayne Mills would give Sue credit for leading him to Christ.
He came to church the Sunday before Christmas. He got there late and had to sit on the first row. That day he got saved.
2. Do you have a husband who is not saved?
Make sure you follow these verses.
C. The . . Respect of the Attitude. v 2
1b “they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct. . .”
Application
This role model really hinges on a woman's attitude. Do you want God's way or the worlds?
2. The . . Adornment of the Wives As Part of the Role Model. v 3-6
A. The . . Correcting Word about Adornment. v 3
3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward
B. The . . Constructive Word about Adornment. v 4
4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
C. The . . Contributing Word about Adornment. v 5-6
5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
Illustration
Sarah was strikingly beautiful. One of the most amazing things ever recorded about women was written about this woman. At the age of sixty-five she was taken by Pharaoh of Egypt for his harem, when Abraham her husband had foolishly jeopardized her safety by a lie that she was his sister.
The amazing thing is that this whole thing was repeated again under Abimelech, the King of the Philistines, when Sarah was ninety years old! What an amazingly beautiful woman she must have been. When she died at the age of 127, Abraham was simply inconsolable. He wept and mourned for Sarah for days.
Application
Ladies are you working on the inner quality of your life as well as the outward beauty?
3. The . . Attitude of the Husband As One In A Role Model. v 7
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. NKJV
A. The . . Required. Attitude. v 7 a
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, . . .”
1. My wife is the last of 10 children.
a. There are some traits of the last child in a big family that are somewhat different.
b. Her brothers and sisters treated her different. Today she is treated with great respect.
c. The sister who is dying told her she is her favorite.
1. That is very meaningful to Christa.
2. The other day as I called she said, “ I’ve been thinking about you a lot and know its time for me to come home. I said, “yes” s quick as you can.: So she is flying home today.
Introduction
You know I believe every time the Bible mentions a role for one sex it mentions a role for the other sex, God is not showing partiality.
Illustration
On one occasion I talked with two Amish girls. I asked them about their roles and submissive lifestyles. I then asked how would you like to be men rather than ladies? They immediately and forcefully said no way. They preferred their role to the mans.
B. The . . Respect of the Attitude. v 7 b
". . .giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life,. . .”
1. This speaks of physical weakness, comparatively.
a . When I pastored in West Virginia I went to the YMCA to work out on the weight machines.
a young lady who weighted about 110 could lift more than I could. If I followed her I had to adjust the machine by making the weight less.
Illustration
A man was watching a TV show once where the father and the son are waiting for the mother and daughter to come home. And the father is trying to teach the boy about women. He says, "I know that if you compliment them, good things will happen." "Like what?" says the boy. "Oh just good stuff you will learn about when you are older." Just then the mother and daughter walk in having gone to the hair salon. "Wow, you guys look great," begins the father. "Yeah, I have never seen you both look so beautiful," continues the son. Basking in the compliments, the mother and daughter say that they will be cooking a special dinner for their two special guys tonight. "You see," says the dad, looking at his son. "Wow, it really does work! Tell me more dad," the son says with a new found respect for his father. "That's all I know."
C. The Reason of the Attitude.. v 7 c
". . . that your prayers may not be hindered. (NKJV)
1. Men how is your prayer life? Could it be better. There may be a hindrance because of your relationship with your wife.
1. The . . Attitude of Wives In The Biblical Role Model. v 1-2
2. The . . Adornment of the Wives As Part of the Role Model. v 3-6
3. The . . Attitude of the Husband As One In A Role Model. v 7