A Paraphrase of Love
Matt 22:37

And He said to him,"' You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' (NAS)

The text I am using today is know as the great commandment. I want to paraphrase this verse and apply it to the love a man and a woman have for each other.

We are told in the command to love God with all three expressions of our personality. Our Heart represents the emotional quality of love. The soul represents the volitional quality of love, and the mind the intellectual quality of love.

Some would accuse me of taking some liberties with this text so I am telling you I am making a paraphrase. Please consider the points I am making. Related to Emotional, Intellectual , and volitional love.

1. Emotional Love. 

Gen 29:17-19 & 24:67; Song 5:10-12; 2 Sam 12:24

A.    The Physical Qualities of Emotional Love. Gen 29:17-19
17 And Leah's eyes were weak, but Rachel was beautiful of form and face. 18 Now Jacob loved Rachel, so he said, "I will serve you seven years for your younger daughter Rachel." 19 And Laban said, "It is better that I give her to you than that I should give her to another man; stay with me." (NAS)

Song 5:10-12
10 "My beloved is dazzling and ruddy, Outstanding among ten thousand. 11 "His head is {like} gold, pure gold; His locks are {like} clusters of dates, {and} black as a raven. 12 "His eyes are like doves, beside streams of water, bathed in milk, {and} reposed in {their} setting. (NAS)

        1.    The Beauty of the Face.
        2.    The Beauty of the Form.
        3.    The Beauty of Features.

I have introduced people to a possible mate but got a no thanks reply because there was no physical attraction. The emotional pull of physical attraction is important.

I remember the first time I saw my wife, I was attracted to her form, face, ad features. She was a live person in that church social.

B.    The . . Pacifying Qualities of Emotional Love. Gen 24:67
67 Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and he took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her; thus Isaac was comforted after his mother's death. (NAS)

2 Sam 12:24
24 Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and went in to her and lay with her; and she gave birth to a son, and he named him Solomon. Now the LORD loved him (NAS)

        1.    Comforting Pacifying Qualities from Emotional Love.

                a.    Not just the Physical aspects.

I have know big strong men who would privately melt in the arms of their wife for comfort. Celebrities with multiply mates have said this persons makes my life worth living.

Country singer George Jones, Barbara Strissands statements.


We do have emotional needs. Emotional love is important in the physical attraction and the Pacifying elements of emotional love.

Matt 22:37 And He said to him,"' You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' (NAS)

2.    Intellectual Love. 1 Pet 3:7

A.    Intellectual Love that . . Harmonizes. 1 Pet 3:7 a
        "You husbands likewise, live with {your wives} in an under - standing way, as with a weaker
        vessel, since she is a woman;..."

            1.    Harmony through . . Awareness.
            2.    Harmony through . . Appreciation.

A young husband did some extra work for an elderly couple. One night on his way to the mall with his wife he stopped by to check on a matter with the elderly couple. They were having a piece of cake from their 50th Wedding Celebration and insisted the young couple come in and join them. The young lady said the elderly man "50 years is a long time to be with someone" He replied "it would have been a lot longer with out her"

B.    Intellectual Love that . . Honors. 1 Pet 3:7 b
        ". . . and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may
        not be hindered."

        1.    Honor through . . Acceptance. :fellow heir"
        2.    Honor through . . Ambition. "Prayers are not hindered"

Illustration "Top 10 list of ways to honor and love your wife"
10. Give small gifts even when it's not her birthday. When you go to the store, pick up a rose. If she likes crafts, pick up some thread. It doesn't need to be big, but it says she was in your thoughts while you were apart.

9. When she's troubled by something, even if you think it's nothing, remember that it is real to her and be supportive.

8. When she has a problem, realize that she may not be asking you to solve the problem but just to listen and let her know she's not facing it alone.

7. Let pleasing her be enough to please you. Do things pleasing to her because you love her and not just so she'll return the favor.

6. Let the things that matter to her matter to you. If she roots for a particular team, root with her. If she does cross-stitch, pick out designs that you'd like to see, and maybe even ask her to teach you how.

5. Encourage her time with other women, who understand what it means to be a woman, and can affirm her femininity in ways that only women can.

4. If you are going out, offer to run errands for her while you are out. If she is going out, ask if there are things you can do around the house while she is gone.

3. If she is trying to improve herself, take note and encourage her, but make sure you don't suggest that you'll love her more after she improves herself.

2. Not all loving touch needs to lead to intercourse. Our wives need to know that there are times when we are holding them because we love them and not because we are looking forward to our own pleasure.

1. Pray for her and ask her how you can help her grow in her individual relationship with God, including areas that don't directly benefit you.

Matt 22:37 And He said to him,"' You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' (NAS)


We need to be thankful for the Intellectual aspects of Love.

3.    Volitional Love

Eph 5:33
33 Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and {let} the wife {see to it} that she respect her husband. (NAS)

A.    Volitional Love Deliberately . . Commits. v 33 a

B.    Volitional Love Deliberately . . Considerations. v 33 b

Newspaper columnist and minister George Crane tells of a wife who came into his office full of hatred toward her husband. "I do not only want to get rid of him, I want to get even. Before I divorce him, I want to hurt him as much as he has me."

Dr. Crane suggested an ingenious plan "Go home and act as if you really love your husband. Tell him how much he means to you.

Praise him for every decent trait. Go out of your way to be as kind, considerate, and generous as possible. Spare no efforts to please him, to enjoy him. Make him believe you love him. After you've convinced him of your undying love and that you cannot live without him, then drop the bomb. Tell him that you're getting a divorce. That will really hurt him." With revenge in her eyes, she smiled and exclaimed, "Beautiful, beautiful. Will he ever be surprised!" And she did it with enthusiasm. Acting "as if." For two months she showed love, kindness, listening, giving, reinforcing, sharing. When she didn't return, Crane called. "Are you ready now to go through with the divorce?"

"Divorce?" she exclaimed. "Never! I discovered I really do love him." Her actions had changed her feelings. Motion resulted in emotion. The ability to love is established not so much by fervent promise as often repeated deeds. -J. Allan Petersen



Our Daily Bread, February 14
I took my two children Helen, (eight years old) and Brandon (five years old) to the Cloverleaf Mall in Hattiesburg to do a little shopping. As we drove up, we spotted a Peterbilt eighteen- wheeler parked with a big sign on it that said, "Petting Zoo." The kids jumped up in a rush and asked, "Daddy, Daddy. Can we go? Please. Please. Can we go?"

"Sure," I said, flipping them both a quarter before walking into Sears. They bolted away, and I felt free to take my time looking for a scroll saw. A petting zoo consists of a portable fence erected in the mall with about six inches of sawdust and a hundred little furry baby animals of all kinds. Kids pay their money and stay in the enclosure enraptured with the squirmy little critters while their moms and dads shop.

A few minutes later, I turned around and saw Helen walking along behind me. I was shocked to see she preferred the hardware department to the petting zoo. Recognizing my error, I bent down and asked her what was wrong.

She looked up at me with those giant limpid brown eyes and said sadly, "Well, Daddy, it cost fifty cents. So, I gave Brandon my quarter." Then she said the most beautiful thing I ever heard. She repeated the family motto. The family motto is in "Love is Action!"

She had given Brandon her quarter, and no one loves cuddly furry creatures more than Helen. She had watched Sandy take my steak and say, "Love is Action!" She had watched both of us do and say "Love is Action!" for years around the house and Kings Arrow Ranch. She had heard and seen "Love is Action," and now she had incorporated it into her little lifestyle. It had become part of her.

What do you think I did? Well, not what you might think. As soon as I finished my errands, I took Helen to the petting zoo. We stood by the fence and watched Brandon go crazy petting and feeding the animals. Helen stood with her hands and chin resting on the fence and just watched Brandon. I had fifty cents
burning a hole in my pocket; I never offered it to Helen, and she never asked for it.

Because she knew the whole family motto. It's not "Love is Action." It's "Love is SACRIFICIAL Action!" Love always pays a price. Love always costs something. Love is expensive. When you love, benefits accrue to another's account. Love is for you, not for me. Love gives; it doesn't grab. Helen gave her quarter to Brandon and wanted to follow through with her lesson. She knew she had to taste the sacrifice. She wanted to experience that total family motto. Love is sacrificial action.
Dad, The Family Coach by Dave Simmons

We have a Paraphrase of Love because He first loved us with a sacrificial love of sacrifice.

Matt 22:37 And He said to him,"' You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' (NAS)




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